Time Ran Away With Me

Sunday, 2 December 2018

Haven't posted since October? After months of posting thrice daily? Absolute madness.

I will be back soon with some rambles, I promise.

But first, toast 🍞

Photo Dump

Friday, 26 October 2018

{About a million photos incoming. You have been warned}

First things first, we went AXE THROWING! It was a double date with D's soul mate v good friend, and his new squeeze. She is lovely. D won overall, but that bullseye he's pointing at? That was MINE! I made him pose with it after he smugly entered the round against me with the words 'looks like she wants to lose, going against me'


We went to Beeston last week, and stopped in at Bendigo Lounge for lunch. I've never seen D so enthusiastic about a chicken salad {"THIS IS AMAZING!"}, and I've remade the chorizo hash twice at home already

We also admired the local street art, and bought some jam at the farmer's market. It's lush

I spy a local hero, hidden in the blur

We discovered the perfect boy's and girl's bedrooms in a weird show home just off the motorway {v. Stepford Wives, it was}

Went for ice cream, because apparently it's warm in October now

And met a woman WALKING HER OWL, dead casual like, in Wollaton Park. It had a very soft head. But apparently it eats live chicks for breakfast so adding one to our brood is a no from me

Speaking of wildlife, I spent far too many minutes on Sat trying to coax this lad out from under our car, to very limited success. And we found some wildflowers! Again, it's October. What's cracking off?

Spent the night at my mama's, eating lasagne and fussing the dogs

And, last but not least, and to conclude this photo dump, we went for a carvery with the twins and their mother. Look how old this child looks. From 8 to 28 in the blink of an eye. Time sure does fly from tantrum to tantrum ;)

Lottie xxx

In A Slump / Over The Hump

Thursday, 25 October 2018

We got turned down for the mortgage amount we needed for our dream house this week, despite both being absolutely baller and having plenty of money both in the bank and coming in to justify what we wanted to borrow. The reason? We're self employed. Ay carumba mama mia the world does like to punish those that try to make their own way through non-traditional means

As the move was going to take us back to be close to my family and my best friend, this news has put me on a bit of a downer. So I've stayed away from the internet and most other forms of communication in order to avoid coming across as a bitter old hag. Which is exactly what I have become over the past few days, I will be completely honest

But a turning point hath cometh and, last night, whilst making a nice meal together and listening to a YouTube playlist called 'music for cooking,' D and I agreed that it's not the end of the world, that we'll make the best of having to stay in the north west for longer than is desirable, and that we would just both continue working hard until the day the bank acknowledges our efforts and MAKES IT RAIN

So, despite my slump, I am 99% now over the hump, but wanted to share this anyway, because life sucks sometimes and marriage isn't a perfect thing and neither is any other aspect of life. Also to dump a couple of photos that don't do the home we wanted to grow old in justice, because there were puppies, and I got distracted photographing them rather than the property. (That picture of the dog was meant to showcase the enormous garden, for example...)

Back with an overview of the last week soon. Hope your mood has been much better than mine ;)


The Others

Thursday, 18 October 2018

Just because they don't get enough coverage

Because their siblings are camera hogs.

And while said siblings are busy posing,

They're off in the background, forming an unlikely friendship

Which may sound sweet, but

You don't know our cat.

... I am concerned.

The Haunting Of Hill House

The story of a family haunted by more than just ghosts, 'The Haunting of Hill House' is described by Netflix as: 'Flashing between past and present, a fractured family confronts haunting memories of their old home and the terrifying events that drove them from it.'

I watched the entire thing this past weekend, and it was fantastic. Also husband friendly, if you have a husband that doesn't scare easy.

10/10, will 100% binge again (have also bought the book... #obsessed)

Dear Godchild

We will never be perfect godparents.

Here is why:
We are not religious

We do not believe in accrediting our achievements to a higher being

We don't know the words to the songs.


Here is what we can do:
We can always be around if you need us

We can cook your favourite foods when you come to visit

We can buy you things with unicorns on them

And we can always sneak you an extra chocolate bar

We can help with future schoolwork, should you ever need it

Lend you books that will broaden your world

And let you walk our dogs {once you're big enough to control them}

We can offer guidance of a non-spirtual kind

Sing songs of a non-religious persuasion {T Swift & Ed Sheeran being our specialty, we real basic}

Celebrate your achievements {made without the hand of god}


Most importantly

Always love you.

We will never be perfect godparents, but we'll do our best to be a perfect aunt and uncle

Even if that means taking selfies with you, at your insistence, during mealtimes...

Unless we're also eating. That time is sacred.


Tick, Tick

Tuesday, 16 October 2018

As a medically diagnosed anxious person, I have a couple of triggers that arouse THE FEAR. Fire caused by my hair straighteners is, for no reason that I know of, one of them. Another is the topic of babies. Not because I don’t like kids – kids are hilarious - but because what if I can’t have them and my husband leaves me for someone that can?

Society has lead us to believe that women over a certain age are kidding themselves if they think they can naturally conceive a healthy child. This age used to be 35. More recently, it’s dropped to 27. TWENTY. SEVEN. That's super young. And as for escaping this worry? Well, the entertainment industry - supposedly designed for escapism - hasn’t helped matters. How many seemingly innocent TV shows must I watch about a group of female friends, one of which will inevitably find out she’s infertile - sometimes without it even being in any way related to her character arc, or the storylne at hand - and that her dreams of natural conception have been dashed (Hey there Friends, How I Met Your Mother, Sex and the City, Pretty Little Liars, Rules of Engagement, New Girl, need I go on?)

Come on world, give us a break

With Harry and Meghan announcing THE BEST NEWS EVER yesterday, there has been an expected flurry of social media and press activity speculating on Meghan’s age, and the miracle of her quick conception, even though she’s like, basically dead in biological terms, at the ancient age of 36

Amidst that activity, I came across an article that I found pretty interesting, and that I think is well worth reading if you’re a woman below the age of 45, panicking about how quickly you’re getting through the life stages, because your eggs are obviously drying up real fast.

The article is kinda soothing, as it shares that the data sets used to determine the running out of our clock is from a time before electricity (ie, it’s outdated), and that the infertility split is closer to 50/50, rather than the 99.9% female infertility vs men with perfect sperm that TV would have us believe

The article can be found here. I'll leave it to do the rest of the talking.

L xxx

Give Little, Seldom & Grudgingly

Monday, 15 October 2018

This made me laugh today. Apparently the british weren't coming, after all ;)

{Advice from Ruth Smythers, 1847 - a woman with a clearly unsatisfactory sex life}

Why Aren't These Bunny PJs Made In My Size, & Other Unanswerable Questions

Dear GAP,
Please make these bunny pjs in my size. I would pay an extraordinary sum to wear them every day from now until my 30th birthday {And, possibly, beyond}

Dear people that keep messing up my name update on official documents despite having several points of reference to check your input against,
That isn’t my name. That was never my name. I’m confused as to how you even came up with that one?

Dear avo plant,
I’m sorry I let you come close to death while your papa was on holiday. I tried so hard not to let you die. I will continue trying to revive you. But I might have to give up soon ‘cuz you’re looking kinda moldy and people are starting to talk

Dear early firework displays,
On the behalf of dog owners everywhere, please hang fire until the one designated day a year that we know to prepare for you. Our pooches aren’t reacting well to your whimsy

Dear that offer I made to prepare Christmas dinner for 8 this year,

Dear church service we attended in honour of our niece yesterday,
She’s two. Has she even had enough time on this earth to commit the amount of sins you asked her to apologise for? I’m not sure I’VE even been alive long enough for that…

Dear husband,
You were asleep by 9:30pm last night. You are now officially old. But I love you anyway ;)

Your sincerely,
Lottie xx

A Night At The Brass Band

On Saturday, we got gussied up, and went out for the evening. This was officially our first date since our minimoon, which was blimmin' ages ago, thanks to my crazy hectic work schedule {which I only partially regret taking on - you have to get the freelance pennies rolling in when you're about to quit your day job forever} so we were understandably in need of it

As our first formal date in our newly marital status, you'd think we'd choose something we knew we'd love, something spectacular, something very rar rar and upper class. But we didn't. Because that's not who we are. Instead, we put on our glad rags, and went to see my friend play in a brass band. And you know what? It was a lot of fun.

The band was 'Besses Boys Band,' and it was their 75th anniversary. We were in Victoria Hall in Bolton, and the whole thing was being filmed, which added a little glamour to proceedings.We sat in the balcony stands, and despite mild scepticism, the time just flew. I mean, was it the night out we had envisioned? No, I thought there would be dancing. But was it fun anyway? Yes! Because there's nothing quite like putting on a new jumpsuit, and watching people with far more talent than yourself do their thing. The band even played a song from Tangled, which of course cemented them a place in my heart forevermore.

We ended the night with a drink and a chat about the future, and were back home in our pjs for 11pm {which is the key to a good night out, obvi}

Oh and, as we'd taken our time to look perdy, I insisted we take some 'cute' selfies...

They didn't exactly turn out as planned, but hey, we gave it a go ;)

Here's to many more dates with the legendary Mr G, the man of my waking dreams. And here's to Besses Boys Band, for putting on a jolly good show

L xx

I Promise We Love All 4 Pets Equally...

Saturday, 13 October 2018

... It's just that this one loves a photo opp ;)

Today marks the end of my 37-days-without-a-day-off stint at work. And man alive am I happy about it. Yay for family time uninterrupted by assignments! Yay for actually being able to ENJOY this thing called marriage...

*Smiles at husband, sips tea, prays for the day we are blessed by the gods that control who wins the lottery*

The Chamber Of Secrets Has Been Opened...

Thursday, 11 October 2018

... In our local Slug and Lettuce, apparently

No, I don't know what's going on, either. Yes, I also kinda like it.

Tonight: D is playing badders with the A team {this is a big thing, I have every faith that he will win}, and I am having a duvet night in with a Chinese, a cup of tea, and Riverdale. Almost the weekend, guys. And I for one can't wait :)

Like, Ever

I have been in one hell of a mood this week, for several reasons, all entirely related to PMS. D has been very good to me, warming hot water bottles and running me baths and the such like, but I have still been a monster {thank you and sorry.}

Last night - in both my mind and in my message history - the elevation of my mood was a lost cause. I had resigned myself to an evening of misery. I was all ready to cry into a box of mini rolls. And then, out of nowhere, a WhatsApp pinged on my phone, and completely changed my mood

It was an update on Leora's love life (previously documented here)

AKA my favourite non-televised drama

AKA, I am now officially living for these dramz

Here is what I was told...

Leora, mob wife wannabe extraordinaire, has been in an on-off relationship with Max*, a boy she was using to get back at Alfie*, her boyfriend of 4 years. As previously noted, I'm disapproving of this tactic because while in some ways it is wily, in others it's kinda mean {also of the opinion that Max was being a jellyfish, and needed to get his spine in gear. Perhaps a harsh analysis of an 8 year old, but there we go}

WELL, this week, Max took the advice I had not yet given him {because I don't actually know him, and that would be a little stranger danger}, and metaphorically grew a pair.

He took Leora to one side, he told her 'I don't love you' and, just like that, it was over. Brutal, but possibly well deserved, I'm sure you'll agree

Leora, in true Leora fashion, took the news well {in public, at least} and, in her incredibly sassy stride, once again rose above a very public dumping. She is the Regina George of the playground, so is probably busy telling people he only really cared about his mum and his friends anyway which, as we know, is not OK by RG standards

Max was confused by this response. It played with his mind. It made him think 'what have I done?' And so, seeing how cool and collected his former flame was being about the end of their affair, Max began to question his actions. And while I like to imagine him screaming 'WHY GOD WHY' whilst on his knees in a rainstorm, clutching a picture of our girl close to his chest as he wept, in reality, he probs just decided it at lunchtime over a sandwich, dead casual like

And, in true evidence that the boy has grown, he did something about it

Taking his love life into his own hands once more {go Max!} Max approached Leora, and asked her to have him back. He knows he was wrong, she is the only one for him, etc.

And Leora's response?

Was to sing

In his face

We are never, ever getting back together, by goddess swift

And to sashay away.

This child is my hero

... I have nothing left to teach her.

'Can I Have A Cuddle?'

Wednesday, 10 October 2018

'... Go on then.'

Thoughts On Quitting A Career I've Worked Hard At, Aged 29

Monday, 8 October 2018

In 22 days, my current career will come to an end. Goodbye, sayonara {suckers}, lose my number, don't try to call, gone. Eight whole years of hard work will come down to absolutely nothing, a lot of the skills I've acquired will be rendered useless, and quite a few of the people I've encountered on this path will regard my decision with ill concealed pity. Because, after all, we all know how the saying goes: 'those who can, do. Those who can't, teach.'

And you know what? I'm good with that. Because I can't wait to move on*

*OK, so I'm being a bit dramatic. I won't actually be done with marketing for a while yet, due to switching back to freelancing {a different, on the whole friendlier and more fulfilling, beast to what I'm about to go into} while I retrain. For the sake of the dramz: OMG, it's, like, almost over. For the sake of my freelance clients: Don't worry, I'm still here 😉

Marketing was never my passion, nor was it my original plan. Rather, it was something I fell into after university, once I came to terms with the idea that journalism isn't really something you can easily make your way in, unless you have parents that will bank roll you for two years while you 'gain experience.' I did not have that luxury. What I did have, however, was a joint honours with one side that was vaguely marketing adjacent, coupled with bags of enthusiasm in interviews, which gave me an edge over some others, and landed me in my first role - a nice, gentle in-house learning curve - and then my second, which is where I really think my 'career' began. The thing is, I was good at marketing right from the get go. Really good {not a confident person in so many areas, but I know I'm good at my job} I was pulled from PPC to SEO to social to PR to copywriting, and I thrived in each environment. Eventually, I came to love the work. Though I feel this love should be coupled with punctuation - 'love' - because I never truly fell for the discipline as a whole {though certain elements do appeal to me - I genuinely do love creative content planning, for example, and SEO is fun to boot}, more for the thrill of a job well done.

And I thought that was fairly standard, to be honest. I know so many people that feel the same way that it seemed normal to have more bad times than good in the workplace, and so I just got on with it. Until a couple of years back, when D floored me with the following words: 'I love my job. Not all the time. But about 99% of it'

As if.

It was then that I started to rethink things properly {after rethinking casually right from the start} but with a tinge of fear. Fear of people thinking I was a failure. Fear that I would think of myself as a failure. Fear of all of those years I'd worked so hard, only to stop now, just as some would probably consider my career as on the up. I'm management level now, technically, with enough experience to demand the good money if I want it, after starting out all those years ago as an assistant on barely more than minimum wage. I'm here, I'm near the top, and now I'm jumping off the edge into the unknown.

Like an idiot. {or... a HERO? Watch this space for future confirmation of which, ha}

I am an anxious person, and that fear of judgement was enough to keep me in check. But now I'm not so anxious {cheers marriage and medication} and I'm all set to take the plunge. If people don't get it, that's fine. You have to do what works for you.

But why am I so keen to drop out now, after working so hard?

Weeellllll, here are some reasons:

The higher you get, the tougher your shell
This may just be the experiences I've had, and it may not be everywhere. But it seems to me that the better you do in the ad industry, the more you have to tread on the little guy to get what you want and need. Kindness is seen as a weakness more than a strength, and it's so easy to be tarnished as 'too soft' if you try to help others more than you try to help yourself. That's fine for the people that want to make it in advertising much more than I want to make it in advertising. But that's not a game I want to play. And so I'm going to drop out before it becomes a neccesity in the name of advancement

I want to see my husband, my friends, and our future baby fam
Oh my gawwwwd the late nights and early mornings that come hand in hand with this job are killer. I was cleaning out old paperwork the other day and found a letter I had to sign for a big London agency I worked at, waiving my right to go home on time, or to ask for overtime pay. I have had more 12-15 hour days than I can count, and they all come with the same downfalls:exhaustion, junk food, loss of the will to live. I don't tend to mind this too much when it's happening, but it does make life hard when you're juggling a career with a relationship, a social life, and - in future - babies. I want to be able to make evening plans without worrying I'll have to cancel to work late on something SUPER important that JUST LANDED and CAN YOU HAVE THIS DONE BY 9AM EVEN THOUGH IT'S ALREADY 6PM? No mate, not anymore

The stress is unreal
We're really not curing cancer here guys, it shouldn't be this hard

As is the sexism
I was once asked the following question in an interview: 'And how do you get men to take you seriously in the workplace, looking the way you look?' to which I answered 'by doing a good job.' We have not come far enough since the era of Mad Men, let's just leave it at that

The work doesn't speak for itself
How much ass you kiss does, though, and I've never really developed a taste for that

What good am I really doing here?
And then it comes down to this. What good am I actually doing as a marketeer? I've made the joke 'marketing is evil' so many times but you know what, it's kinda not a joke is it, really? On a whole, this is an industy responsible for lowering self esteem, ripping people off, belittling minorities {and women folk} and contributing to people's monetary problems by selling them crap they don't need. I just want to do something good with my time on this earth, and I'm not sure this is it

Again, the above points are generalisations, but you get what I'm trying to say - basically, this isn't a good fit anymore, and perhaps never was.

As for regrets? I don't really have any. Although I've outlined mainly the bad, it's not all been awful. I've met some great people, worked on some interesting accounts, been a part of the world's largest organisations, been to media parties {wiiiiine} and had the chance to be paid to sit in a room and just brainstorm for hours and hours while eating biscuits. The dream.

I'm proud of what I've achieved, I'm proud of what I plan to do moving forward {hoping to retrain as a primary school teacher, get some of those nurturing muscles going} and I'm proud of all the people I'm leaving behind that are passionate about this, and are doing well with it. You're rockstars

But you have to do what you have to do at the end of the day. And this is what I have to do. If only for the sake of my mental health, which has improved a million fold since I settled on this choice.

Time to be brave. Time to teach. Time to spend the next year having a lie in as I freelance from my bed

Lottie xx

A Marriage Between Two Introverts

Sunday, 7 October 2018

This is how I spent my Saturday ^. And this is how he spent his >

24 hours in the same house, completely apart, even at mealtimes. We hadn't argued, we hadn't discussed it beforehand, we simply came to a silent agreement - 'I need some me time.'

And that is A OK.

{Secretly hoping today goes the same way... ha}

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